The theories underpinning our practice

Kalikamurti combines counselling knowledge with a firm basis in yoga psychology, a 5000-year-old understanding of how the mind works, and as a result of this she is able to include a psycho spiritual component to her work when desired by the client.  Kalikamurti has significant expertise in chronic pain and other illnesses and injuries and supporting people who are working towards healing from chronic pain and other illnesses and injuries rather than simply managing it.

Kalikamurti’s counselling style over the last 10 years has changed to include the knowledge of Choice Theory, which is based on an understanding of internal control psychology.  Situated in the present tense it is remarkably useful in working with clients from all areas including those with long held traumatic, physical, emotional and or mental illnesses.

CHOICE THEORY explains why and to a great extent how people behave.  All of our behaviour is purposeful.  Our purpose is always to attempt to satisfy the basic biological and psychological needs of survival, love and belonging, power, freedom and fun.  The theory is called Choice Theory because all behaviour is our best attempt, at the moment, to control ourselves and by so doing control the world around us.  We continually try to satisfy one or more of these basic needs. 
 The only behaviour a person has any control over is his or her own.  One person cannot ‘make’ another person do anything that person chooses not to do.  Choice Theory provides the reason why authoritarian management does not, and will not, result in long-term behaviour change.  Choice Theory is the opposite of Stimulus-Response Theory.  Choice Theory states that all behaviour is internally motivated and chosen.  From a stimulus-response perspective, behaviour is caused by someone or something outside the individual.

REALITY THERAPY is a method of interviewing based on Choice Theory to help individuals gain more effective control over their lives.  Reality Therapy is the process of developing effective counselling and management skills.  This approach has proven valuable in education, parenting, leadership and management; it lends itself to any situation where people need to learn how to satisfy their needs in responsible ways.  Reality Therapy is based on the belief that we all choose what we do with our lives and that we are responsible for the choices.  Responsibility is defined as learning to choose behaviours that satisfy our needs and at the same time, not to deprive others of a chance to do the same.  It is a completely non-judgmental way of working with people and so is extremely adaptable across all cultures and races.  Reality Therapy is totally centered on the Quality World of the client, family or group and simply offers the skills and training on self evaluation tools that lead to make the choices needed to realise one’s goals and dreams.

LEAD MANAGEMENT focuses on management change utilising many of the principles outlined by W Edwards Deming.  Central to the development of a quality organisation is the concept that participants are involved as a learning community striving for more effective outcomes.

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE is a different way of being smart.  It is a sense of self-awareness.  It includes social skills and empathy skills, identifying feelings, being confident, understanding and managing moods, motivation and delaying gratification.  Researchers now generally agree that IQ counts for less than 20% in achieving success.  The ability to manage one’s emotions, having empathy for the feelings of others and the regulation of emotion in a way that enhances living is far more important than traditional measures of verbal and mathematical intelligences.  Emotional intelligence training is beginning to use the skills and knowledge from the research of neuro plasticity of the brain and combined with Reality Therapy and the knowledge and skills from yoga make a potent combination of information that can easily be taught to all people in all age ranges and areas of concern.